I M N INFJ

Today I would like to focus on a new insight into my personality that comes as no surprise to me, but still presents a sort of relief, and in another, more terrifying way, a sort of earth-shattering ton of bricks, although I knew it along.

I'm not like you.  

Odds are, we are NOTHING alike.  

And you probably knew that too, didn't you?

I discovered this while taking a few online personality tests out of boredom, and stumbling upon Myers-Briggs.  If you haven't taken a test like this, you may have fun with it.  This is the one I made all of the members of my family take, and it was eerily accurate.  It said my sister liked attention and my dad was an eccentric genius.  Spot on.  

After taking a few other variations on this test, I've come to the realization that my INFJ results aren't going to change, no matter how much I try to cheat the test and come up with something a little more socially-acceptable.  If you think I'm joking about the "socially-accepted" thing, you should know that it's been said that Carl Jung single-handedly rescued my personality type from being regarded as a sociopath in Western Culture.  Thanks Jung.  The Bedlam Haircut can be cute, but I look terrible in a bathrobe.  

To summarize my type, I am a walking contradiction.  I, and about 1% of the population, am considered an introverted intuititive individual with extroverted feeling.  Yeah, I know, that doesn't mean a whole lot.  Allow me to explain some aspects of this personality type:

-I'm energized by my alone time, yet thrive on the company and support of others.  So Being Alone = Good, but Being Alone = Bad. 

-I trust my intuition above facts and figures, but don't often act on it because I'm so focused on all the other things my thought process has revealed could go wrong.  So I've got killer instincts, that paralyze me.  

-I have an incredible amount of empathy, to the point that I often tend to adopt others' personalities.  So I'm a mimic, and it's totally the annoying kind that pushes the people I want to be closer to, further away.

-I'm an organized perfectionist who is overwhelmed by their organized perfectionism to the point of appearing to be a total mess who could not care less.  

-I try to avoid confrontation and conflict to the point of becoming fiercely angry with those who disrupt the peace.   (Is that not sick, or what?).  Conversely, I love stirring the pot when I know the outcome won't lead to any real discomfort or contention.  And I can dish it, but I can't take it.

-I have a keen insight into people and situations, and have much to offer in the way of guidance and comfort, but my ability to "know" things other don't know manifests into an "I'm right" attitude that comes on too strong because of my conviction, which turns people off from anything I might have to say.  So, I'm a know-it-all who really does know it all, but nobody cares.

And apparently, this isn't supposed to be a bad thing.  I went ahead and search out other INFJs with blogs or websites, and I've come to the conclusion that we are a little bit weirder than most, and we feel like outsiders, but for the most part, we're really good at what we choose to do and we are pretty likable people, once we embrace how different we are.   I read a quote by one INFJ who also happened to be a life coach (common career for this type) and she said, "Certain things in life are not nearly as hard as other people make them out to be, and certain things in life are rarely as easy as other people make them out to be."  This pretty much sums up the life of an INFJ.  We just have to find our stride.

It also sums up the life of pretty much every person, in one way or another, and I totally recognize that.  My personality is rare, and so I have a really good reason to feel like I don't belong, but who hasn't felt like a misunderstood outsider, every once in a while (even those ESTJs, who are apparently EVERYWHERE).  The point of these personality tests is not to give myself an excuse for being an Other, anyway.  I'm meant to learn about how I function, so I can continue to function at my best.  

I'm intensely curious about all of your personality types, even though I recognize it as only part of the story.  If you happen to know yours, share it in the comments.  

After this, I promise to put it to rest.  My husband could not be more sick of it.  Typical ISTJ....  and yes, that was very INFJ of me to point that out.